JW Talks Longevity

By Joshua Fields Millburn & Ryan Nicodemus · Follow: Facebook, Twitter, Instagram

In this episode of The Minimalists Podcast, Joshua & Ryan discuss simple families, minimalist parenting, and traveling with a family with author and podcaster Denaye Barahona, and they answer the following questions:

• How do I reach a compromise with my partner regarding the quantity of our children’s toys?
• How do I help my children adopt minimalism in spite of the societal pressure encouraging them to acquire all of the latest and greatest things?
• How do I help my children cultivate values focused on relationships, contribution, and experiences, rather than the acquisition of material items?

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• “Intentionality as an action is more important than minimalism as a concept.” —Joshua Fields Millburn
• “We are our children’s primary role models.” —Ryan Nicodemus
• “Lead by example and be prepared for the many deviations.” —Denaye Barahona
• “Fun stuff comes after less fun stuff.” —Denaye Barahona

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• Added Value: Front Porch
• Book: Minimalism: Live a Meaningful Life
• Book: Simple Happy Parenting
• Facebook: Simple Families
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• Instagram: Jessica Williams
• Listen: Launching Rockets
• Listen: The Civil Wars
• Patreon: The Minimalists
• Podcast: Simple Families Podcast
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• Website: Jordan Moore
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By Joshua Fields Millburn · Follow: Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Google+

There are a few things I’ve been putting off lately. Meditating this morning. Cleaning my house this week. Finishing my taxes this month. This embarrassing list stretches on and on.

With my mounting task list, I’ve let my crastination turn pro. If I were running for public office, “I’ll get to it tomorrow” would be an honest slogan for my tacky yard signs.

Tomorrow? Well, today was once tomorrow, so if I want to break the cycle, I must pause and then prioritize my most important affairs. I know this intellectually, but it’s difficult in practice because it often feels like life gets in the way of life. Or, more accurately, everyone else’s life gets in the way of my life. Work, leisure, and family obligations prevent me from doing what I need to do.

But do they really?

The truth is that even my best excuse is still an excuse. Today, I have the same 24 hours as everyone else. The only difference is how I spend it—what I say yes to, and, just as important, what I say no to.

So, instead of a never-ending to-do list, I make three lists in the Notes app on my phone.

Today. My Today list functions like a to-do list but with one major difference: anything on this list must be completed today, so I’m careful about what creeps onto this list because these are the things I’ll say yes to over the next 24 hours; everything else receives a polite no, thank you. Today’s list includes: meditate, write, exercise, read, sauna, file taxes, prepare for a podcast, cook dinner for Bex and Ella, and make three business-related phone calls. If I don’t have enough time, I’ll wake an hour earlier, before the world is buzzing, so I can focus. At the end of the day, I’ll write a Tomorrow list at the bottom of this list, which becomes my new Today list in the morning. If anything from Today makes it to Tomorrow two times, then I either delete it or move it to the next list because it’s not a real priority.

Someday. This short list helps me collect aspirational considerations—items that are important to me but not urgent. These Somedays might eventually become a priority, but not right now. My current list includes: schedule lunch with a friend, do the laundry, grocery shop, plan a vacation, and consider a couple consumer purchases I’m still pondering. Eventually—as soon as later this week—some of these items will make their way onto my Today list, while others will fall by the wayside as I focus on more vital undertakings.

Never. These are the things I mustn’t do if my Today list is incomplete; they are imaginary values that clog the path to my priorities. It turns out that nearly half my compulsions make this list—watch TV, surf YouTube, check email, peruse social media, browse the news. However, the onus of these burdens is fake. I feel compelled by these distractions only because they are easier than hunkering down and drudging through more meaningful endeavors. Of course, everything worthwhile—and all the rewards—reside on the other side of the drudgery.

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I have a confession to make. Are you prepared? Please don’t judge me too harshly.

Ok, here goes.

I’ve failed.

A Good Deal.

Some failures were easy to brush off. Others were devastating.

• Those chicks I really liked who turned me down.
• Having my writing arming… and refused… and rejected.
• Failing to grow my first business beyond over a handful of clients at a moment.
• Once I dropped from high school because I was failing most of my classes but felt I couldn’t ask for assistance.

Not to mention the countless of failures I’ve had.

Let’s face it Failure stinks. Almost all people would love it when we succeeded on the first try each and every moment. That’s not the way it works, however. And also the concept of failure prevents us.

Failure, especially failure, can be hard to rebound from. It’s simple want it to go a particular way and to become invested in a circumstance or project. When it does not, it can be disappointing or perhaps crush your confidence.

It might get to the point where you can wonder, why Why even try? It can be extra tough when you feel you’re doing your very best, and your best is not good enough.

Failure is inevitable. It does not feel good, but it’s a part of life. Instead of fearing failure, here are a few strategies to assist you bounce back when it will occur, and recover your confidence.

1. What Can You Learn?

We fail so we can find out . In case you never failed, you would never understand. You’d just be ideal in every way… that seems super boring to me personally.

Look for the lessons if you fail in something:

• What did you learn?
• How will it help you succeed in the long run?
• How will you really do things differently next time?

Understanding lessons will help us see that our efforts and time are not wasted — we’ve come this person that is a brighter, more capable out than previously.

2. Success is Built Out of faking

There are a great deal of gatekeepers in existence that can help us achieve what we hold or desire back us. They may be the person who’s interviewing you for the dream occupation . It might be the publishers you’re sending your book to. It could be as straightforward as the friends of this guy or girl you love.

Here’s the thing: Deep down, they don’t want you to neglect. But they can not let everyone, so that they also want the best.

Whenever they deny you, you are able to look at it one way and stop. Or you may look at it as you are not quite there yet, but if you keep at it, even if you employ those courses to maintain construction, you will be.

3. Who Failed?

Pretty much each famous person that you know of has failed at any point in their livelihood.

Failing is disheartening. So for motivation to keep going, look to these men and women who arrived and failed before you.

• The Chicken Soup for the Soul series was made 140 times before being printed.
• Even Dr. Seuss along with the Harry Potter series have been rejected.
• The creator of the Honda car company needed his factories ruined both by warfare and an earthquake.

If these people had faced failure several occasions and ended up, they would’ve never discovered their huge success. Use stories such as this as inspiration.

4. Have the Long-Term View

Sometimes we believe we should succeed almost instantly.

Perhaps you think your new business will be an overnight success, or you are going to learn that new ability almost immediately.

And it ends up, achievement is hard. And we stopped. Or perhaps we keep on going like the folks over in No. 3.

Check out your expectations. Unmet expectations may really cause us distress (they impact the chemicals in our mind ).

Instead, take the long-term view. I really don’t know who said it first, but there is a saying which goes,”Success is like developing bamboo.”

Like it requires a very long time bamboo looks. For the first five decades, you don’t see much happening.

Just a shoot. For five years.

What we do not see is what’s happening. Its roots are currently pushing developing in sophistication — setting the foundation.

And after that, its expansion explodes along with the tree can rise up to a meter per day.

Success is exactly the same way. As placing the foundation, Study your failures. Pick out the long-term view and grow bamboo.

5. See Your Self-Talk

When you fail, what goes through your mind? What you educate yourself may have a huge effects.

If you neglect and think,”I’m a loser,” there is a problem. That statement implies that you have been a failure are presently a collapse and will remain to become a failure.

If you believe something like that, right yourself. “I am a failure,” may turn into,”This specific effort failed,” or”This time I did not succeed, but I can do better later on.”

It can get tough especially when you have multiple failures in a row. But look at every one as a specific occasion.

Just altering your self-talk about may have a huge effect on your success and perseverance.

6. Make a List of Your Prior Successes

If you are having difficulty rebounding back and regaining your confidence, grab a pencil and a paper.

If you’ve failed, it can be easy to become too focused on the damaging and not find the positive (especially if it’s been failure after failure). If this happens to youpersonally, it’s alright — our brains possess a bias, therefore it is just.

When you really truly feel as though you’re starting to become overrun by failure and using trouble ongoing, write down of.

It doesn’t matter how small or large they are looking for the wins is fantastic. It could be something like easy as:

• Each time you place yourself out there (It requires guts!)
• Each lesson you have learned
• Each time you pushed forward
• Even the Little awards you’ve gotten
• That time your friends or loved ones liked your work
• The moment you made that person smile
• The one paying client you got that particular time

Concentrate on the very small successes. You can even keep a daily journal of these to keep moving.

7. Failure Isn’t a Reflection of Who You Are

Our brains are amusing things, and they respond. Some of those threats are things that make us look foolish or lesser in the eyes of others.

We don’t want to fail. But failure is not a reflection of who you are. Your reaction to collapse is.

It is your call if to pick yourself up or not. If anyone judges you based on your failures, that’s their issue, not yours.

8. Re-Evaluate Your Plan

If you continue trying the identical thing over and over and it’s not working, it’s time to take another look.

• Is there a better way to go about it?
• Are there any individuals who will assist you?
• Are your expectations unrealistic?

There’s a saying that doing exactly the identical thing repeatedly and expecting different results is the definition of insanity. It is not, but it’s sort of stupid.

Failure might be telling you something more.

Here’s the thing. I said people who kept on going and going, but sometimes the perfect move will be to stop.

Seth Godin’s book The Dip is all about when to stop and when to keep going. It’s only looking at when stopping is the ideal thing to do.

I used to teach Salsa dancing, also I gave it up. I kept trying to receive pupils and turn it to a clinic, but it was not working.

Were there other (probably more effective) approaches I could’ve learned and tried? Sure.

However, did I wish to?

I got honest and As it came back to it, my heart was not in it. I wished to be helping people in a different manner.

So I was fitter, and quit. Stick with it once you are growing pine. Quit you want to plant elsewhere and when the soil’s no good.

9. Give Yourself a Mourning Period

Failure is reduction.

And it’s fine to grieve a loss. Therefore, in the event that you fail, particularly at something devote some enough time to re do it.

Do you require? One day, more or possibly three for a failure that is larger? Give yourself time to get it over . But the crucial thing is to specify a time limit. And once it’s set, devote to jumping back to the horse.

What this really does is reframe how you’re feeling toward failure — it creates your feelings your own choice. Failure is not your enemy, although in the end, it might not seem like it. It’s your own mentor.

It might be but it is to not hold you back, but assist you along, when they appear.

Your achievement is born from the fires of failure.

Adopt it and proceed .