Podcast 186 | Birthday Gifts

By Joshua Fields Millburn & Ryan Nicodemus ·

In this episode of The Minimalists Podcast, Joshua and Ryan talk about birthday gifts, gifting experiences, their favorite consumables to give as gifts, and when it’s appropriate to give physical gifts, and they answer the following questions:

  • How do I set the appropriate expectations with my loved ones regarding the kinds of presents I prefer to gift?
  • What are the most tactful methods for requesting specific gifts or no gifts at all?
  • What does the ideal minimalist birthday party entail?

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Joshua & Ryan’s pithy, shareable, less-than-140-character responses. Find more quotes from The Minimalists at MinimalMaxims.com.

  • “A kind person is the best kind of person.” —Joshua Fields Millburn
  • “The best gift is the joy of less.” —Joshua Fields Millburn
  • “Worry less about how something looks—worry more about how it makes you feel.” —Ryan Nicodemus

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Not Utopia

By Joshua Fields Millburn & Ryan Nicodemus ·

Minimalism will not solve all our problems.

Unfortunately, we often believe that the goal of simple living is to own as few things as possible—to declutter our homes, organize our lives, and clear our minds. Once we do this, we’ll each find our own private utopia and bask in the glory of our newfound happiness, right?

Not exactly.
Real life doesn’t work this way.

Minimalism is not the end game. Chucking material possessions does not necessarily equate to happiness. You could get rid of all your stuff and still be miserable.

Removing the excess will, however, help you discover what does in fact bring you joy—experiences, people, passions—because it’s much easier to find the path once the debris is cleared.

Simplifying may never usher you to your utopia. Even the simple life has its moments of tedium and drudgery and sadness and pain. But letting go can lead to a better life, one that’s worth more than any shiny object.

You can start small, but it’s worth getting started today.

Read this essay and 150 others in our new book, Essential.

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Podcast 182 | Simple Families

By Joshua Fields Millburn & Ryan Nicodemus ·

In this episode of The Minimalists Podcast, Joshua & Ryan discuss simple families, minimalist parenting, and traveling with a family with author and podcaster Denaye Barahona, and they answer the following questions:

  • How do I reach a compromise with my partner regarding the quantity of our children’s toys?
  • How do I help my children adopt minimalism in spite of the societal pressure encouraging them to acquire all of the latest and greatest things?
  • How do I help my children cultivate values focused on relationships, contribution, and experiences, rather than the acquisition of material items?

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  • “Intentionality as an action is more important than minimalism as a concept.” —Joshua Fields Millburn
  • “We are our children’s primary role models.” —Ryan Nicodemus
  • “Lead by example and be prepared for the many deviations.” —Denaye Barahona
  • “Fun stuff comes after less fun stuff.” —Denaye Barahona

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Philippa Wilkin: The Transformational Power of the Breath (HEx Podcast #21)

Transformational Breath is a type of conscious connected breathing. It’s a breathing awareness practice, and it’s also a breath control practice. Essentially we breathe in what I’d describe as a conscious rhythmic way where we don’t pause in-between the inhale and the exhale. So we breathe in one continuous loop. And this type of breathing […]

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Jordan Bates and Jon Brooks Discuss Spiritual Narcissism and the Shadow (HEx Podcast #22)

In May 2019, Jordan Bates and I (Jon Brooks) met up in London to attend the Rebel Wisdom summit. Having not seen each other in the flesh for 6 months, we thought we’d celebrate our reunion by recording our first ever podcast together. Jordan and I have always had incredible, dizzying, profound conversations about topics […]

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Every Other Never

By Joshua Fields Millburn ·

There are a few things I’ve been putting off lately. Meditating this morning. Cleaning my house this week. Finishing my taxes this month. This embarrassing list stretches on and on.

With my mounting task list, I’ve let my crastination turn pro. If I were running for public office, “I’ll get to it tomorrow” would be an honest slogan for my tacky yard signs.

Tomorrow? Well, today was once tomorrow, so if I want to break the cycle, I must pause and then prioritize my most important affairs. I know this intellectually, but it’s difficult in practice because it often feels like life gets in the way of life. Or, more accurately, everyone else’s life gets in the way of my life. Work, leisure, and family obligations prevent me from doing what I need to do.

But do they really?

The truth is that even my best excuse is still an excuse. Today, I have the same 24 hours as everyone else. The only difference is how I spend it—what I say yes to, and, just as important, what I say no to.

So, instead of a never-ending to-do list, I make three lists in the Notes app on my phone.

Today. My Today list functions like a to-do list but with one major difference: anything on this list must be completed today, so I’m careful about what creeps onto this list because these are the things I’ll say yes to over the next 24 hours; everything else receives a polite no, thank you. Today’s list includes: meditate, write, exercise, read, sauna, file taxes, prepare for a podcast, cook dinner for Bex and Ella, and make three business-related phone calls. If I don’t have enough time, I’ll wake an hour earlier, before the world is buzzing, so I can focus. At the end of the day, I’ll write a Tomorrow list at the bottom of this list, which becomes my new Today list in the morning. If anything from Today makes it to Tomorrow two times, then I either delete it or move it to the next list because it’s not a real priority.

Someday. This short list helps me collect aspirational considerations—items that are important to me but not urgent. These Somedays might eventually become a priority, but not right now. My current list includes: schedule lunch with a friend, do the laundry, grocery shop, plan a vacation, and consider a couple consumer purchases I’m still pondering. Eventually—as soon as later this week—some of these items will make their way onto my Today list, while others will fall by the wayside as I focus on more vital undertakings.

Never. These are the things I mustn’t do if my Today list is incomplete; they are imaginary values that clog the path to my priorities. It turns out that nearly half my compulsions make this list—watch TV, surf YouTube, check email, peruse social media, browse the news. However, the onus of these burdens is fake. I feel compelled by these distractions only because they are easier than hunkering down and drudging through more meaningful endeavors. Of course, everything worthwhile—and all the rewards—reside on the other side of the drudgery.

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Study Suggests A Bottle Of Wine Equals The Cancer Risk Of 10 Cigarettes

But doctors say that comparison oversimplifies how the disease actually works.

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Podcast 174 | Minimalist Fitness

By Joshua Fields Millburn & Ryan Nicodemus ·

In this episode of The Minimalists Podcast, Joshua & Ryan discuss minimalist health and fitness with Ben Greenfield from the Ben Greenfield Fitness podcast, and they answer the following questions:

  • How do I create an exercise habit that fits my busy life?
  • What are some effective exercises that don’t require a gym?
  • What is the ultimate minimalist exercise?

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  • “Everyone has eighteen minutes a day for their health.” —Joshua Fields Millburn
  • “Gym memberships don’t make you fit; consistent actions make you fit.” —Ryan Nicodemus
  • “The simplest exercise is always the exercise you enjoy.” —Joshua Fields Millburn
  • “Minimal exercises lead to maximal health.” —Ryan Nicodemus

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We’re taking our family to London! … with just 2 carry-ons

So that coming week we’re taking our first big family trip together. I can not think as it looks like between Tyson and I that sentence is actually true , we’re always on a plane, or traveling with one of those kids individually. We have taken road trips together of course, but I’m only now realizing we have not actually been on a plane… all together… ever. I believe it is fascinating that we don’t have any experience on this, and yet have chosen to create that inaugural flight with them haha. Is it obvious that we purchased the tickets in 1AM?

ANYWAY. Our enthusiasm for the trip is through the roof. We’re going to London and taking the kids to Peppa Pig World (yes, that is a thing) and Legoland. They don’t entirely know that we’re going yet, so we’ll surprise them the dawn of, but I am pretty confident they manifested this trip with their belief in it alone since they haven’t stopped talking about the way they are definitely, one-hundred percent, entirely, for sure going to Peppa Pig World and Legoland… for at least a year now.

And to make matters more interesting… we are just bringing two carry-ons. Oh yes.

The plan is to take one set of shoes each, to be worn out on the plane, in addition to whatever jackets/layers likewise be worn around the plane. And we’ll attract a select few flexible outfits, toiletries, a tiny detergent, and compliments everything (! ) ) zero diapers. And the kids will each have their own little backpacks for plane activities and snacks… can it be crazy to say I feel like this will be pretty easy to pull off? I can be a minimalist once I need to be.

Normally what happens up the most space in my luggage is my toiletries. Between my own hair and my skincare routine – BOY HONEY. In case you guys saw my skincare regimen in my instastories (now saved for my profile), then you already know I’m going to get to acquire real discerning. It’s no secret how big a fan I am of Biossance goods, I’ve used them for many years, and appreciate that they’re a clean beauty manufacturer that really produces real results. So. LUCKY FOR MEI only found out that a few of my favorites today arrive in the finest little travel sizes (will be packaging some free samples too!) So that I don’t actually have to give up that while trying to keep the packaging to a minimum.

Because everything we wish to do is pretty spread out throughout the united kingdom, we wanted to create the daily train traveling as light as easy as possible so that we have our hands free. I was completely inspired by various posts I read on the capacity to travel minimally as a family, and because we’ll already be attracting two strollers, a camera bag, and then all of the snacks/entertainment for our long travel days, I thought the advantage of very little luggage sounded like a whole fantasy. My husband LIVES for efficient compact packing and as soon as I told me that I, for the first time in my life, desired to give it a try, he fell to his knee and proposed. And spent the 98 hours viewing carry-on bag reviews.

So here we’re a couple of days out, shooting our extremely-reviewed luggage to get a test run, and attempting to make as minimalist as you can. At this point I think that the term”highly curated” must probably be banned from the internet, but I don’t have any choice but to use it at the moment. Because these bags are going to be curated AF. Best of the top just. I’m sure you’ll notice in the future photographs from our trip in case my strategic outfit planning will triumph or neglect (heading for WIN), however my main obstacle… the environmentally friendly friendly skincare pattern… will soon function as follows:

Last year, I got a preview of the newest Squalane + Micronutrient Fine Mist in Biossance HQ and completely fell in love. And here it’s in TRAVEL dimensions and I’m totally geeking out. I always, always churns that on right after doing my makeup or should I want to freshen up after a flight.

For the cleansing measure, I pretty much always use the Squalane + Probiotic Gel Moisturizeralong with the Squalane + Vitamin C Rose Oil Together with One Another. They’re my FAVORITES. And I use the sample dimensions so in the event you wanna do the same or just try both for just $5 shipping, then you can! Highly recommend! It is also possible to try their own Squalane + Peptide Eye Gel at the same free sampling program. I have attempted several eye shapes, plus they’ve historically been fairly harsh but I have LOVED this substance. Because it’s somehow powerful, yet perfect for sensitive under-eyes.

I was also so stoked if they started offering their signature 100% Squalane Oil in travel size since I mostly use this on my hair to tame its naturally wavy tendencies. Once you’re in the midst of an inner debate about attracting your iron That is key.

I’m actually excited to travel like this! Despite my BFF Taylor being entirely beside herself that I would intentionally decide not to bring more style options for London, as hello, it is London. However LIKE I SAID… we are going with highly curated haha. I will let you know how it goes.

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9 Ways to Bounce Back From Failure

9 Ways to Bounce Back From Failure

I have a confession to make. Are you prepared? Please don’t judge me too harshly.

Ok, here goes.

I’ve failed.

A Good Deal.

Some failures were easy to brush off. Others were devastating.

  • Those chicks I really liked who turned me down.
  • Having my writing arming… and refused… and rejected.
  • Failing to grow my first business beyond over a handful of clients at a moment.
  • Once I dropped from high school because I was failing most of my classes but felt I couldn’t ask for assistance.

Not to mention the countless of failures I’ve had.

Let’s face it Failure stinks. Almost all people would love it when we succeeded on the first try each and every moment. That’s not the way it works, however. And also the concept of failure prevents us.

Failure, especially failure, can be hard to rebound from. It’s simple want it to go a particular way and to become invested in a circumstance or project. When it does not, it can be disappointing or perhaps crush your confidence.

It might get to the point where you can wonder, why Why even try? It can be extra tough when you feel you’re doing your very best, and your best is not good enough.

Failure is inevitable. It does not feel good, but it’s a part of life. Instead of fearing failure, here are a few strategies to assist you bounce back when it will occur, and recover your confidence.

1. What Can You Learn?

We fail so we can find out . In case you never failed, you would never understand. You’d just be ideal in every way… that seems super boring to me personally.

Look for the lessons if you fail in something:

  • What did you learn?
  • How will it help you succeed in the long run?
  • How will you really do things differently next time?

Understanding lessons will help us see that our efforts and time are not wasted — we’ve come this person that is a brighter, more capable out than previously.

2. Success is Built Out of faking

There are a great deal of gatekeepers in existence that can help us achieve what we hold or desire back us. They may be the person who’s interviewing you for the dream occupation . It might be the publishers you’re sending your book to. It could be as straightforward as the friends of this guy or girl you love.

Here’s the thing: Deep down, they don’t want you to neglect. But they can not let everyone, so that they also want the best.

Whenever they deny you, you are able to look at it one way and stop. Or you may look at it as you are not quite there yet, but if you keep at it, even if you employ those courses to maintain construction, you will be.

3. Who Failed?

Pretty much each famous person that you know of has failed at any point in their livelihood.

Failing is disheartening. So for motivation to keep going, look to these men and women who arrived and failed before you.

  • The Chicken Soup for the Soul series was made 140 times before being printed.
  • Even Dr. Seuss along with the Harry Potter series have been rejected.
  • The creator of the Honda car company needed his factories ruined both by warfare and an earthquake.

If these people had faced failure several occasions and ended up, they would’ve never discovered their huge success. Use stories such as this as inspiration.

4. Have the Long-Term View

Sometimes we believe we should succeed almost instantly.

Perhaps you think your new business will be an overnight success, or you are going to learn that new ability almost immediately.

And it ends up, achievement is hard. And we stopped. Or perhaps we keep on going like the folks over in No. 3.

Check out your expectations. Unmet expectations may really cause us distress (they impact the chemicals in our mind ).

Instead, take the long-term view. I really don’t know who said it first, but there is a saying which goes,”Success is like developing bamboo.”

Like it requires a very long time bamboo looks. For the first five decades, you don’t see much happening.

Just a shoot. For five years.

What we do not see is what’s happening. Its roots are currently pushing developing in sophistication — setting the foundation.

And after that, its expansion explodes along with the tree can rise up to a meter per day.

Success is exactly the same way. As placing the foundation, Study your failures. Pick out the long-term view and grow bamboo.

5. See Your Self-Talk

When you fail, what goes through your mind? What you educate yourself may have a huge effects.

If you neglect and think,”I’m a loser,” there is a problem. That statement implies that you have been a failure are presently a collapse and will remain to become a failure.

If you believe something like that, right yourself. “I am a failure,” may turn into,”This specific effort failed,” or”This time I did not succeed, but I can do better later on.”

It can get tough especially when you have multiple failures in a row. But look at every one as a specific occasion.

Just altering your self-talk about may have a huge effect on your success and perseverance.

6. Make a List of Your Prior Successes

If you are having difficulty rebounding back and regaining your confidence, grab a pencil and a paper.

If you’ve failed, it can be easy to become too focused on the damaging and not find the positive (especially if it’s been failure after failure). If this happens to youpersonally, it’s alright — our brains possess a bias, therefore it is just.

When you really truly feel as though you’re starting to become overrun by failure and using trouble ongoing, write down of.

It doesn’t matter how small or large they are looking for the wins is fantastic. It could be something like easy as:

  • Each time you place yourself out there (It requires guts!)
  • Each lesson you have learned
  • Each time you pushed forward
  • Even the Little awards you’ve gotten
  • That time your friends or loved ones liked your work
  • The moment you made that person smile
  • The one paying client you got that particular time

Concentrate on the very small successes. You can even keep a daily journal of these to keep moving.

7. Failure Isn’t a Reflection of Who You Are

Our brains are amusing things, and they respond. Some of those threats are things that make us look foolish or lesser in the eyes of others.

We don’t want to fail. But failure is not a reflection of who you are. Your reaction to collapse is.

It is your call if to pick yourself up or not. If anyone judges you based on your failures, that’s their issue, not yours.

8. Re-Evaluate Your Plan

If you continue trying the identical thing over and over and it’s not working, it’s time to take another look.

  • Is there a better way to go about it?
  • Are there any individuals who will assist you?
  • Are your expectations unrealistic?

There’s a saying that doing exactly the identical thing repeatedly and expecting different results is the definition of insanity. It is not, but it’s sort of stupid.

Failure might be telling you something more.

Here’s the thing. I said people who kept on going and going, but sometimes the perfect move will be to stop.

Seth Godin’s book The Dip is all about when to stop and when to keep going. It’s only looking at when stopping is the ideal thing to do.

I used to teach Salsa dancing, also I gave it up. I kept trying to receive pupils and turn it to a clinic, but it was not working.

Were there other (probably more effective) approaches I could’ve learned and tried? Sure.

However, did I wish to?

I got honest and As it came back to it, my heart was not in it. I wished to be helping people in a different manner.

So I was fitter, and quit. Stick with it once you are growing pine. Quit you want to plant elsewhere and when the soil’s no good.

9. Give Yourself a Mourning Period

Failure is reduction.

And it’s fine to grieve a loss. Therefore, in the event that you fail, particularly at something devote some enough time to re do it.

Do you require? One day, more or possibly three for a failure that is larger? Give yourself time to get it over . But the crucial thing is to specify a time limit. And once it’s set, devote to jumping back to the horse.

What this really does is reframe how you’re feeling toward failure — it creates your feelings your own choice. Failure is not your enemy, although in the end, it might not seem like it. It’s your own mentor.

It might be but it is to not hold you back, but assist you along, when they appear.

Your achievement is born from the fires of failure.

Adopt it and proceed .

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